Know what can and can't work for you

If i hadn't learnt by experience then this time i would have done the same mistake again. Yes at that time it was hard but as every wise person knows its the experiences that we carry along after an event / circumstance that matters and i intend to use the past experiences to shield me from committing the same mistake, not really twice because i might have gone through that more than once but from doing the same mistake this time and also in future.

Last Sunday i had started watching the movie 'he is not that into you' and stopped watching i think 20 minutes into the movie. I was bored all those 'if he is not calling, if he is not marrying you, if he is saying this, if he is........' am sure there are a lot more 'ifs' i could have met with had i watched the whole movie. And the 'self made' relationship experts trying to read, analyse and recommend solutions for all the actions.

My question is, since when did dating become such a hard subject? harder than my statistics units in undergraduate. I don't deny that yes it difficult to deal with another human being, at times i even get tired with myself and even annoyed at the things i do to me so yes i would not expect anyone to find me easy to deal with and vice versa.
But what happened to trying to understand each other, open communication, a simple this can or can't work for me but we can try this and that and the rest of the tips that we all have come across in the deposits of knowledge.

Anyways, all am trying to say is that there is some level of crap we all can handle and if you think you have met that one person whose crap you can attempt to live with and that you genuinely like each other. Simply go for it, do what you can when you can for you will simply succeed or fail. Not everyone will appreciate a girl who takes initiative not everyone will appreciate one who takes a back seat either, a prettier face will always exist a more stylish one is around the corner but the world has abundance for all. All in all remember to carry the lessons learnt and don't stay down. Finally as they say, if it isn't a natural progression, then leave it....Absolutely no point of forcing it.

distributing your risk

my musings.......

Been thinking about this for long, think its something that i need to do and am not doing. Can't really put a finger on it yet but am working to it.
The advantages of having many pairs of shoes is that you don't get to exhaust one thus increasing the lifespan of them all - across board, same to having many pairs of jeans and many handbags, this reminds me that i need to do some shopping.

On different note, investing in different things i.e. put a few thousands in the bank for the rainy day, invest others in the money market, work toward owning of some property, if the same principle of the shoes can be applied here then one is more secure.

Am not sure i can say the same about friends since those are bonds that one needs to cultivate and grow them......just something i needed to get out of of my mind.

The hot seat

Am on my second month is the hot seat, well maybe nowadays its not as hot as it was a couple of weeks back. When i heard that my boss had resigned i was shattered, saddened. I hear some people whining about their bosses and how waking up to go to work is not their favorite cup but mine has always been a different story.

He inspired me and made me aim for more, with a very interesting way of critising, harshly and politely at the same time. Success was mine to celebrate and failure was also mine to chew on.

I am on my own now, with a sticker on my desk that says 'think big, be ambitious, challenge yourself but be realistic' he liked to use those word when communicating to me. That and other other lessons that i have learnt is where i draw my strength and spirit to go on from. Though i know that soon i will have to redefine my north.

Life is all about symmetry, there is always two sides to a coin, a loss to us meant a gain somewhere else but also an opportunity for us to grow. I got rid of my old chair and now (before it gets a new occupant, if at all it will) am swinging on a task chair, sometime back i was looking at a catalogue with their price and i was like ahhh no way will i be able to justify my need for one ....... and boy my back has never felt better :).I can turn on my speakers on without being a noise nuisance to anyone, i hope you are getting my drift!

It always comes back, press down shaken together and running over. Doing and giving it your all. Making the boss feel good, hey who doesn't like to be pampered once in a while. Though mine was entirely genuine a goodbye card, goodbye message that had very kind words - which were all true and of course the blessing of the Lord earned me some money that i really needed for going back to school. Just when i had almost given up and kaboom, the cheque is clearing.

The Lord's timing is always perfect. Give with a cheerful heart. Give it your best when you have the opportunity. Become the best that you can.

Accountability partners - we all need one

Today kamama made a come back to the running world. I had taken a commercial break courtesy of my hair - yes a woman's life is quite a handful! Leave alone the fact that i think running is pretty tough on the muscles but that is story for another day as in another month i plan to be doing my 21km race marathon.

I quickly agreed to a route that i wasn't familiar with since i love trying new things that's one of the many reason why am not repeating the 10km race category this year. The first few minutes of the run were okay as i was in tandem with my running mate, shoulder to shoulder, neck to neck. Now the return trip was something else.

Beating all odds i managed to propel my body up the hill but as soon as i was done with it i was gone, totally exhausted wondering when will i get to the finishing point. My mate was beginning to give me mileage and in a few seconds she way ahead of me but seeing as i was experiencing difficulties she decided to slow down.

At that point i thought that's not very nice of her, why cant she go on! Its the return trip anyway i will make it back. You See i was in my comfort zone. But seeing as she had slowed her pace down for me i had to up my game, she was the first one among all the runners and now someone had passed her because of me. My only option was to increase my speed and so i ran and ran and caught up with her and together we finished what we had started in an averagely good time.

Had i been on my own i would definitely have taken longer and maybe even walked part of the way back. That's how important an accountability partner is.
Someone who can wait for you to fasten your laces and help you catch up with the rest. Someone who can help you get back on our feet when the road seems too challenging. Someone who can motivate us to the next level as the short 'pleasures' of the comfort zone can really deceive.

Am on a quest to look for more of such.............